rachelburgos ([info]polychaete) wrote,
@ 2006-05-06 13:12:00
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Current mood:tired
Current music:the paperchase - when (and if) the big one hits

its true.
"A lot has been said about how to prevent rape.
Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. Women shouldn't have long hair and women shouldn't wear short skirts. Women shouldn't leave drinks unattended. Fuck, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all.

instead of that bullshit, how about:

if a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
if a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
if a women is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
if a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
if a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape her.
if a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
if a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
if a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.
if a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.

if a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
if your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.
if your step-daughter is watching tv, don't rape her.
if you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.
if your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.

if your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
if your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and tell the guy he's a rapist.

tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it's not okay to rape someone.

don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x.
don't imply that it's in any way her fault.
don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl.
don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions."

oh yeah and if you haven't already, comment on my friends cut post before this.




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[info]partycrashing
2006-05-06 06:38 pm UTC (link)
don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x.
don't imply that it's in any way her fault.





why not?

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[info]karma__dogs
2006-05-08 03:25 am UTC (link)
wooooooow.

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[info]partycrashing
2006-05-08 03:31 am UTC (link)
that doesn't answer my question

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[info]margueriterapp
2006-05-08 03:37 am UTC (link)
women shouldn't have to worry about it when they're doing any of the activities above; that's the whole point.

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[info]partycrashing
2006-05-08 03:41 am UTC (link)
well, when you do drugs, your judgment is inhibited. this influence that drugs have is indiscriminatory of gender. and last i checked most drugs (rohypnol and GHB discluded) are under your control when you consume. so you make a bad judgment to lose judgment. and sometimes you lose more. so rape is a horrible, horrible thing, and nobody should ever do it, ever; but realistically, it happens; and it can be avoided.

it's so stupid to wave away an issue by saying it shouldn't even be a problem. like that solves anything.

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[info]margueriterapp
2006-05-08 03:52 am UTC (link)
it doesn't solve anything; I agree but that's what its saying.

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[info]partycrashing
2006-05-08 03:53 am UTC (link)
thanks margie.

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[info]polychaete
2006-05-09 08:02 pm UTC (link)
the first one, i think that yes you should tell y our friends how to avoid it, but maybe not a fresh victim you know? it might make them feel as if it's their fault.

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[info]ghostcrayon
2006-05-10 01:52 am UTC (link)
you shouldn't fucking have to. men (mostly men, at least) should know to not fucking rape a woman.

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[info]polychaete
2006-05-10 01:54 am UTC (link)
amen

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[info]partycrashing
2006-05-10 04:30 am UTC (link)
ya sure i agree but how does that help realistically? people know killing is bad but it still happens.

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[info]dylan91700418
2006-05-06 09:58 pm UTC (link)
it's not only men who commit rape


i think.

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[info]polychaete
2006-05-09 08:01 pm UTC (link)
its a woman impowerment chain i liked.

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[info]gravesasclouds
2006-05-07 01:08 pm UTC (link)
i liked this.... alot.

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[info]gravesasclouds
2006-05-07 01:09 pm UTC (link)
and i'm assuming that only girls will understand this due to comments already made on this entry.

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[info]partycrashing
2006-05-08 03:32 am UTC (link)
i understand this COMPLETELY. i was raised by feminists. some of these things listed are out of place, though.

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[info]karma__dogs
2006-05-08 03:24 am UTC (link)
i like that a lot a lot

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[info]washeteria
2006-05-08 06:28 pm UTC (link)
im only hee everyonce in a while but keep me on hon

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[info]polychaete
2006-05-08 07:41 pm UTC (link)
wwwwwwwword

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how strong.
[info]agent_naught
2006-05-10 02:39 am UTC (link)
you have always had fire and strength but this comes across [to me] as the most strong, feet firmly planted, clear, look you straight in the eye, no apologies thing i've seen of yours.
beautiful.
i love you.
big hug.
smooch.

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